How Absence Helped One Heart Grow Fonder Of Kobe Bryant

KobeBryantEither you love Kobe Bryant or you hate Kobe Bryant. Or you realize how much you truly appreciate Kobe Bryant after nearly losing Kobe Bryant. 

I miss Kobe Bryant. There, I said it. You happy? I miss Kobe Bryant.

To understand how we arrived here, we must first backtrack. The lights were dim in Park, a D.C. nightclub only blocks away from the White House. A friend of mine invited me to her birthday party to take part in an open bar while feeling “fake-famous” behind a velvet rope and one mountain of a security guard. The music was festive, catering to a crowd celebrating the impending arrival of spring and summer. And, most importantly, the drinks were free. Suddenly, looking up at a random TV, Kobe’s mug filled the screen, only this time the mood appeared different.

Bean’s eyes were bloodshot red, as if he’d been crying. Instantly putting two and two together, something was off. Drastically off.

From memory, the only time I had seen Bryant shed tears was during a press conference soon after the sexual assault allegations that nearly derailed his career a decade earlier made headlines. Eventually the captions on the TV confirmed that Kobe Bryant tore his Achilles. Season done. Playoffs done. Career as clouded as it had been since the aforementioned court case. Nearly everyone became fixated on the TV as endless loops of the play which ended his season and his hobbled walk off the court peppered the screen. The entire mood in the club changed that night for literally 20 minutes. I kid you not.

That’s when it hit me. I took Kobe Bryant for granted.

He was drafted in 1996, only four months after my 10th birthday. So that means, in terms of my basketball life, Kobe Bryant’s been a part of it for seven years longer than he hasn’t. To hell with the Lakers, and truth be told, my fan relationship with Bryant has been cordial at best. But he’s always been there. My appreciation for Kobe only equals his head-scratching tendencies where I’ve wondered aloud hundreds of times, “What the FUCK is he doing?” But he’s always been there, being himself without an ounce of remorse for who it offended.

My opinion of the Lakers moving forward is irrelevant, similar to my stance in the eternal “Kobe or LeBron” debate — which has gone on to replace “Nas or Jay Z” as the most volatile question to ask in a barbershop since the turn of the century. An injury was never in the cards. Quietly, since last April, I’ve kept personal tabs on Kobe’s rehab. Initially, the prognosis read a return before the All-Star break. Then it was Christmas. Now, the possibility has been semi-jokingly hinted he could return to action by the end of the month — with outrageous predictions saying this Friday, ironically against the team and on the very floor the next chapter of his career began, the Warriors at Staples.

7 Replies to “How Absence Helped One Heart Grow Fonder Of Kobe Bryant”

  1. I’m not a Kobe stan, but I do miss him. I’ve never taken his game for granted. He is a great basketball player. He is just hard to embrace. When he’s done, he will be one of those guys that people miss, that people misread, and people love to argue for or against. The only problem we may find about the end of Kobe is that Kobe will never let us forget about Kobe. He loves himself more than any of us ever could.

  2. As a Philadelphia 76ers fan who hates the Lakers and who will always remember the cold way Kobe stated he wanted to “rip our hearts out,” I will always have a feeling of hate, but the more I have watched him over the years, the more I cannot help but appreciate his game. Just check out the stuff I’ve wrote on him over the years … it’s really just admiration and appreciate behind a veil of hate. It’s gonna be said when he retires, no doubt.

  3. HUGE Kobe fan and also Lakers. but the reason I like Kobe so much is I was the Jordan hater as a young buck so when I saw that Kobe had the same fire and similar game as his airness, I made sure I showed appreaciation while he was actually playing unlike I did or didn’t when Jordan was playing. Once he retired, I was like that was one bad man but if you had a debate in school with me I was always going to point out cons besides the pros like so many others.

  4. Great read! I’m a Lakers fan and one year older than Kobe. I’ve always supported him as a basketball palyer while enjoying him play for my favorite team but indifferent about him as a man. Over the last few years, my opinion has changed as he has matured. Seeing him age and approach his retirement has made me feel old. Does this make any sense?

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